No perfect marriage: just two imperfect people willing to make it work

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No Perfect Marriage, Just Two Imperfect People Willing to Make It Work

A Marriage story from a 56-Year-Old Woman

Marriage is not a fairy tale. It is not a perfect love story without flaws, misunderstandings, or challenges. After 34 years of marriage, I have learned that a strong marriage is not about finding a perfect person but about choosing to love an imperfect partner—every single day.

The Illusion of Perfection

When I walked down the aisle at 22, I believed in a perfect love. I imagined a marriage filled with laughter, romance, and harmony. But reality hit me fast. We were two different individuals with different backgrounds, habits, and emotions. Disagreements were inevitable. Some days, love felt effortless; other days, it felt like work.

I quickly realized that marriage is not about perfection; it is about persistence.

Choosing Love Over Perfection

Perfection in marriage is a myth, but commitment is real. My husband and I made countless mistakes—harsh words spoken in frustration, financial struggles that tested our patience, moments of doubt where walking away seemed easier than staying.

But we made a choice: To stay, to fight for love, and to grow together.

We learned that:
✅ Forgiveness is more important than being right. Holding grudges only creates distance.
✅ Compromise is not weakness, but wisdom. Meeting halfway doesn’t mean losing; it means choosing peace.
✅ Love is an action, not just a feeling. Some days, love is doing the dishes when you're tired. Other days, it’s offering a kind word when your spouse is struggling.

Building a Marriage That Lasts

Now, at 56, I look back at our journey with gratitude. We are still two imperfect people, but we have built something beautiful—not by chasing perfection but by embracing our flaws and working through them together.

To young couples: Let go of the fantasy of a perfect marriage. Instead, build a strong one—one choice, one apology, one act of love at a time.

Because in the end, a lasting marriage is not about finding the perfect person but about being willing to make it work with the one you chose.

What’s one lesson marriage has taught you? Share in the comments below

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